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The mindset of a very TORPE boy.

Posted on March 20, 2012 by charlesryansy

I will share to you 10 things that runs in my mind before approaching or engaging with a woman that I like when I was still in the torpe season.

1. I hope she will not reject me. (guy thinking at the back of his mind)

2. I don’t know what to say? shocks LORD HELP ME what will I say?!? (hmmm good morning?)

3. I cannot say that she is so beautiful. She might think that I will court her na then I might get rejected. (doesn’t appreciate her at all)

4. She is so beautiful, my heart is beating so fast! I can’t control myself. Should I say I like her na? I think its not yet time. (Does a toss coin if he will talk to the girl)

5. I’m so shy. (Does not approach the girl but just observe her)

6. What if I ask her out? Then she rejects me? I think she doesn’t like me na. So I won’t ask her out muna. (Talagang hindi nag-ask out)

7. I think she doesn’t like me, so what shall I do for her to notice me? (walk pass her back several times)

8. Should I text her a personal message or a forward message or a joke? (sends her a forward message)

9. Should I sit next to her. (sits next to her but he doesn’t talk)

10. Bravely approaches the girl, sits with her, gives to her the LOVE letter and Flowers but HE giggles 80% of the time and 20% stares the ceiling and floor.

It is not wrong to be torpe….every guy has this season in life. It takes maturity to overcome this kind of mindset and if you are still in this season of life. I suggest to develop your relational skills first. Study and learn the character and behavior of each individual.

To effectively overcome being a torpe here is a blog from http://www.actlikeaman.org/pursue-girl/.

OH NO! My business is going down!

Posted on March 19, 2012 by charlesryansy

Have you ever strived so hard in work and in business but nothing seems to happen? Are you feeling frustrated when God doesn’t seem to hear your prayers? I would like to share my thoughts on how I was able to deal this questions in my life. I’m 28 years old and I ran a small business of retail stores. I have atleast 10 people who depends on me. I have high rents that I need to pay month after month. My funds are limited for marketing campaigns, inventory is sometimes not enough, my people borrows a lot of money for emergency and urgent needs, sales is sometimes bad, quota is not met, stealing, extortion, and other unwanted factors. This problems and challenges that I face are very normal in a business environment. I used to worry a lot when things don’t fall on the right places and time.

To give you a clear realization, this things are mostly beyond my control but it shall never stop or hinder me in my goal to succeed. This are bumps that are very common but can affect a person in different ways. It depends on how someone handles the situations and stresses of life. I learned from Matthew 6:25-27

²⁵ “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? ²⁶ Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? ²⁷ Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life^[e]?

People tend to worry on things that are valued the most. If you worry about your business that means your top priority and most valued thing in life is your business. The bible confidently tells us not to worry at all because God is going to take care of all our needs. We must trust him and He knows what He’s doing. We cannot control all the external factors that are happening in our business so why not depend those things to God who has confidently repeated in his words that He will provide everything that we need if we only seek Him first. (Matthew 6:33-34)

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. ³⁴ Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Running a business takes a lot of guts and will. It can totally drive us nuts. If you are already on your knees and begging our God to bless you with your needs and wants, this is the right time to trust Him by seeking and obeying his word. God never changes as it says in Malachi 3:6 For I am the LORD, I change not; and in Hebrews 13:8 it says “Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.” If God has done it for the lives of Abraham, Jacob, David, Joseph, Job and other men of God in the Bible how much more for us. His grace is so abundant that God has declared tin Jeremiah 29:11

¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

God’s plan for each and everyone of us is to prosper which means, victorious, successful, contented in life, grateful, to become strong and flourish. With this promise, it reminds me that He holds all our future and He just wants us to trust and let HIM do the work for HIS GLORY AND HONOR.

Ang tatay kong probinsyano

Posted on March 7, 2012 by charlesryansy

dad

I grew up in a traditional Filipino- Chinese family. My dad and mom are business people and they work so hard to feed a family of 8 plus 3 aunties and 6 house workers. Most of the time my parents are in Divisoria (Azcarraga) and at night they come home to have dinner with us. In the dinner table, they always talk about money and business. My dad is a very gentle father. He rarely talks and just always smile. He loves to do wood works like build furniture and improves anything that he sees not good in the house. My dad is not expressive and to tell you honestly I have never heard him tell me that He loves me. He shows his love through works and by being supportive in my goals in life. If I have a business that I want and the idea sounds good enough for him, he would easily lend me money and guide me in executing my plan. He would go with me in provinces to scout the market and listen to my meetings.

My dad is not the ideal Christian father as many kids would desire. He grew up by being independent when my grandfather died when he was still a teenager. His story is a rags to riches success. He was the bread winner to his 9 siblings. He really didn’t have any fatherly guidance throughout his life and I’m still amazed to see how he raised us up. We never go to fun places with my dad. He is not the typical outgoing dad that would spend time with each and everyone of us. If you are still reading this you would find my dad really boring but I still honor him and thank God for giving me a dad like him.

mom and dad with me

I really desired to have an adventurous dad who would go out with us to have fun and a father that encourages me with words that would boost my manhood but I saw a lot and learned from him more than I could imagine.

with my aunties

I never once saw my parents fight or shout at each other. My dad love my mom in front of us. We never had any major problems relationally. My dad never showed favoritism. My dad respected all my friends and welcomed them in the house. He is very approachable and huggable hehehe. He prioritized his family so much and even helps his siblings when they are in need. He is a good steward of God’s money. When we face problems he is always at the back and supports us in every way. He always tell me and my brothers that he is proud of us. He does gives fatherly advices with wisdom especially when it comes to business and marriage. My dad is hardworking and a very goal oriented person but the most important lesson that I learned from him is that he is contented with his LIFE. Riches didn’t change him as a person, he is still the typical probinsyano tatay that I have with such a generous heart.

Dad, you raised a godly family and you left that legacy in us. We honor and glorify God for giving us a dad like you. lab yeah!

Proverbs 13:22

²² A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children,
but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous.

If you have NO WORK then read this…

Posted on February 20, 2012 by charlesryansy

Money is very hard to earn nowadays, my dad would always tell me that I should work double time and find ways to be productive. I will tell you frankly that it was really hard but it was not impossible. I started with nothing, after graduation I was broke and I had no income in my bank maybe just the maintaining balance as I remember. I tried different kinds of businesses like multi-level marketing, bazaars, and direct selling but I remember I had no passion of doing those things for long term. It wasn’t my forte / strength. I can say at that time I lack confidence in me to do sales pitch and convince customers to buy my products. I used to go around Divisoria and sell fabrics to store retailers in Ylaya but I could hardly make a sale.

This experience brought a lot of wisdom and maturity for me as a person. Selling items to customers is not a gift or a inherited skill. It is a skill that every person can do but not excel on it. It can be develop and improve. It is a skill that can be love or be hated. A decision that could also make or break a career. Sales/Marketing is the most vital part of any business. No sales means no business.

So how do I start?

1. Source a product.

2. Find your market.

3. Identify the demographics (Age, area, income, gender)

4. Be positive, confident and always smile.

5. Never be discourage and learn from your mistakes.

6. Try enjoying it if it does not then maybe try something else, a different career maybe? (Atleast you tried)

Try developing your selling skills and maybe one day when you start up your own business then you will be confident, skillful and experienced in selling your products/ ideas. Happy selling!

Ecclesiates 9:11

¹¹ I have observed something else under the sun. The fastest runner doesn’t always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn’t always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don’t always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time.

The Perfect Girl

Posted on February 13, 2012 by charlesryansy

My dream Girl (I tried my best to recollect all my memories) I’m just sharing my experiences and I hope you’ll have fun reading . Happy valentine’s to all!

Age 10 – (Grade 4) I called a girl on the phone and I told God if she talks to me more than an hour. She will be my girlfriend.

Age 12 – (Grade 6) Lord! She is so pretty and intelligent. I really like her but i think she doesn’t like me.

Age 13- (1st year High School) Lord if she is the right girl for me! kung nakawhite sya na damit tomorrow then it is a sign! (she actually wears a white shirt). The next day, I started calling her on the phone almost every night

Age 15- (High School 3rd year) She looks like my favorite actress. So sexy and beautiful. I’m gonna ask her in prom and hopefully I will be able to dance with her.

Age 16- (4th year high school) I’m in love! This is not puppy love and I’m serious na! This is it! She is God sent!

Age 17- (1st year college) How come Lord busted Ako! Akala ko she is the one na! How come?!?!? I can’t take it anymore! Love hurts!

Age 18-21- (College life) Lord darating na lang yan and nahurt talaga ako. I don’t want to pursue.

Age 22- Still not pursuing ( confidence is down)

Age 25- (dating stage) Every moment! Ok she said yes to our date I think Lord eto na! eto na ang God’s best ko!!!!

Age 26- I had a chance to see my crush again after a long time, Lord sign ba ito? This is not a coincidence maybe you are telling me something. We went out again but nothing developed more than friendship.

Age 27- Met a girl! Love at first sight! Kaboom heart beats fast! without thinking.. heart decides to court immediately then wapak! end of story…heart cries but its ok!

Age 28- “Guard my heart and Follow God.” I’m still praying for my future spouse and I will respect every girl that I will meet. Never give up. But Lord I’m still hoping a for supermodel and Godly wife. (hehehe thats the spirit!)

As you can see, I haven’t found the perfect Girl of my dreams (no girlfriend since birth) and there would never be anyone that would perfectly match my standards that is why it is a dream but God has placed a desire in my heart. Love is a decision, I made several decisions in my life that helped me develop and mature as a man. Pursuing gave me a chance to develop patience and understanding. Loving one-sided developed my unselfish desires. I’m not a perfect man but I will not make myself remain a boy if I will not change and learn from life and follow God’s word.

This experiences that I learned can be capsulize in two verses and its found in Psalm 37:4 Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart and Matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. This 2 verses always reminded me that it should be God first above all and then after He will reward our heart’s desires.

A year of drought and dryness.

Posted on February 10, 2012 by charlesryansy

I shared in my previous post on how God has tremendously and awesomely orchestrated His plans for me. I cannot merely comprehend each and every blessing that He has given me. I always continue to share to other people that tithing was my secret but it doesn’t just end there. We must realized that God can gives us everything that we need but not everything that we want. God sees our hearts and He knows our good and bad desires.

There was a time in my life that I worry so much about my future, career, lifestyle and money. I thought that these things are the most important aspects of life in order for me to define success. But with this kind of perspective brought more STRESS and WORRIES in my life (that’s why my hairline is getting higher ). I’m not saying that these thing are not important but there are other things that are more valuable than future, career, money and food. I really valued money a lot but things have change when God is valued more than money.

Jeremiah 17:5-9 says,

⁵ This is what the LORD says:

“Cursed is the one who trusts in man,
who draws strength from mere flesh
and whose heart turns away from the LORD.
⁶ That person will be like a bush in the wastelands;
they will not see prosperity when it comes.
They will dwell in the parched places of the desert,
in a salt land where no one lives.

⁷ “But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD,
whose confidence is in him.
⁸ They will be like a tree planted by the water
that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes;
its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought
and never fails to bear fruit.”

One of my weaknesses in my walk with God is that if I didn’t get my hearts desire I tend to turn away from Him. I EASILY forget all the blessings that He gave me and I sin. Life depending on human perspective stirs up selfish desires that results to uncontentment. Prosperity will come but I will not see it because my heart doesn’t depend on God. No matter how many millions of pesos that pass through my hands, my heart will never be satisfied and will desire for more money.

God’s perspective of prosperity defines on trust and confidence alone. He is the source of all our wealth and money therefore He just wants us to be planted in HIM. A faith as small as a mustard seed will do. If we place God’s value higher than any other things we will not worry in a single moment. We will do still feel the drought but He promises us that we will never fail to bear fruit.

It took me 28 years to understand one thing.

Posted on January 21, 2012 by charlesryansy

I almost gave up in life. At the age of 27, I face different kinds of trials in life. Words of rejections and negativity are part of my day to day life. Financial hardships and breakthroughs are difficult to overcome. I was never contented in life no matter how hard I plan and work for it in order for me to fulfill happiness in life. I acted like a coward with no future ahead of me. When I face challenges my insecurities spurs up, I’m being controlled by my body telling me my weaknesses as a person. Life wasn’t fun at all because I was entirely lost even though people say that JESUS is the only way and it all boils down to HIM. I chose to live a life of defeat and mediocrity. I didn’t understand why I cannot have a life of peace and happiness.

It took years and years, cycle after cycle, up and downs, too finally realize one thing. HE LOVES ME SO MUCH and HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH AS WELL. It is so easy to say but It is so hard to grasp. I will tell you one more time! This is so hard to grasp. (READ PSALM 139 Contemporary English Version)

He hears us everyday. He sees everything that we do, He knows our heart desires whether good or bad. He never left me at all.

Thank you God after 28 years I finally realized it. Ngayon, in love na talaga ako sayo LORD.

Psalm 139 (The Lord is always near)

¹You have looked deep into my heart, LORD, and you know all about me. ²You know when I am resting or when I am working, and from heaven you discover my thoughts. ³You notice everything I do and everywhere I go. ⁴Before I even speak a word, you know what I will say, ⁵and with your powerful arm you protect me from every side. ⁶I can’t understand all of this! Such wonderful knowledge is far above me.

Proverbs 5:21 Contemporary English Version (CEV)

²¹The LORD sees everything, and he watches us closely.

How to start a business when opportunity comes?

Posted on January 20, 2012 by charlesryansy

Every time I faced an opportunity in doing business my heart gets so excited. I make impulsive decision by committing or making promises to invest on the idea that was shared. The desire in the heart sometimes becomes a greed if I cannot control it. Desires in the heart should be acted upon wisdom. So what is wisdom?

Wisdom is a deep understanding and realization of people, things, events or situations, resulting in the ability to apply perceptions, judgements and actions in keeping with this understanding. It often requires control of one’s emotional reactions so that universal principles, reason and knowledge prevail to determine one’s actions (wikipedia).

When we do business we should not make impulsive decisions without thinking or planning. Here is my typical advice to people who wants to start a business.

1. Get a notebook and a pen (preferably new notebook).

2. Write down your goals in life. How much you want to earn?

3. Set a timeline. How long do you want to achieve it?

4. Write all the ideas that are in your mind.

5. Choose the ideas that seems exciting to you and that you are capable of doing.

6. Do a business plan. if you don’t know how here is a link http://www.entrepreneur.com/businessplan/index.html

7. Get advices from your parents or partners if they support your idea. Get inputs or info about your competitors.

8. Execute your plan.

These are just basic ideas. I did these steps when I started my company. Be strategic, your goals will stir up your passion.

business plan

He LOVES me so much.

Posted on January 15, 2012 by charlesryansy

Every time I sinned I felt so condemned. My heart is so down and I don’t feel like doing anything good or getting so religiously on high for God. The feeling of dwelling how bad I’m as a person and how God will punish me for being disobedient and sinful has totally separated me farther from HIM. I felt like God would do something bad because I did this and that. And that He will punish or give me consequences in life for all these things that I did. I felt that His love has lessen. This cycle has gone year after year. My Christian life was like a roller coaster with ups and downs. It seems that I cannot grow maturely because I kept on back sliding. I thought Christianity was serving and loving God through works and that He would abundantly bless me if I totally obey the Bible. I really didn’t understand Agape and Grace. Every year I sinned and I was really struggling in my walk with God. I didn’t felt his presence or His love like what the pastors and the church people are saying.

In this world, love is very conditional. People loved us because we show kindness and compassion but God’s love is so unconditional. I asked the Holy Spirit to give me wisdom and reveal His love through me. It was until when I was started to look at my friends and love them for who they are no matter how imperfect they can be and how I accepted and loved my family despite disagreements and fights.

God loves me even though my kili kili SMELLS HAHA

Romans 5:6-8

Christ died for us at a time when we were helpless and sinful. ⁷No one is really willing to die for an honest person, though someone might be willing to die for a truly good person. ⁸But God showed how much he loved us by having Christ die for us, even though we were sinful.

I cannot comprehend this but I just have to trust and believe His word. So no matter How imperfect I’m as a person. He does truly love me.

GOD I love you too for loving my good and bad sides

James 1:5-8

⁵ If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. ⁶ But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. ⁷ That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. ⁸ Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.

Why do I worry so much?

Posted on January 7, 2012 by charlesryansy

Emotional moment with Jollibee

What will I do if my daily sales won’t meet the quota or what will happen to me if my monthly sales are below break even. This were my questions when I started doing business. I always pray to the Lord and try not to worry these things but my mind is very limited. Hence I assume that everything that is not good or does not meet my standards is caused by my incapability and negligence. I was very limited as a person and I was so discouraged therefore I worried most of the time.

Here is my top 10 Questions to God (worrying mode)

1. Will I be single for the rest of my life?

2. Will I be able to earn enough to have a decent lifestyle?

3. Will life be boring if decided not to get married?

4. Will my business fail? What do I have to do?

5. I need a wife LORD? WHEN?

6. I want to be a millionaire Lord but How?

7. Lord I’m too fat, make me thin I need your divine intervention, can you help me please I’m so desperate?

8. God, I’m so introvert? I think there is something in me that needs to be change?

9. Lord my nose is too big? Can I go to BELO and make it smaller. I look better if I do that.

10. Lord gwapo ba ako? bakit wala pang naiinlove sa akin?

When I analyzed my questions, I found out that I was so insecure about myself. I was being limited/ boxed by my mind and body. It was my self-confidence telling me that I cannot do this or that and I realize that I needed God more and more. I surrendered to God all my insecurities and I ask HIM to be my confidence. I now have Christ- confidence in me so whenever I speak of good things about my life I know that God was the one who controlled and orchestrated these things in order for me to honor and glorify Him at all times.

John 14:1 “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me.

Matthew 17:20 He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”

I’m truly amazed to what God has done in my life. I know how limited I’m as a person and I don’t know what I can do to make such a difference. As a christian, we all know that God is BIG, POWERFUL, STRONG, CAPABLE, and our problems our just small to HIM but how come we do not trust Him to overcome all our insecurities in life. God has change my heart- He gave peace, love and joy inside it and I’m a living testimony that God is true to His promises.